today is need to reflect on our education

 21st Century Education Research Institute Sun Yunxiao: very happy and we are here to talk about children's education. I did 38 years of education, children's education and research has been done, but also the father of 20 years to do, so teaching children has very deep insights.

today is need to reflect on our education. What does that mean? We all feel that today's education must receive special attention, they spend money, time, children tired, and very competitive. But I think today's China is an era of educational neglect. On the surface this emphasis on education, in fact, the real education was neglected. For example, the family, education, family education is all the most profound impact on the people, the most lasting education.

any investigation to see the world, must be the greatest impact on family education. What is the education of family education have been? Should have been an emotional education, life education, habit, but now our family paid attention to this problem? The family as a second school, like a classroom, we are particularly concerned about children's learning, skills, and even I joked that although not all of China with their parents will be opened, but many parents say their children will be shared with the words, Children learn as long as you do a good job, and anything else you do not have control. I fully understand these words. But you just think about it, it will in a cold sweat, as long as the kids are really doing a good job on the line to learn it?

Beijing not long ago out of the Daughter of a case of Tai Hing, Li, 29, 80. Young man driving the hotel, and his wife also open shop at home because of the demolition also points a lot of money, and two sons. We all feel that the family must be happy, but one day, Li killed his parents, his sister to kill, to kill his wife, his two sons killed. Then he took all the money home to Hainan to play, and daily consumption of 1 million dollars or more, he also knows that doomsday had arrived. I have a friend is a famous criminal psychologist, he believes that the problem of people with him 12 years of age must be educated before a relationship. What do you mean? A man in his 12-year-old before, especially before the age of 6, if you can not establish a strong bond with their parents the emotional attachment, he is an easy problem to people. So a man of his education, we must first develop his humanity, his feelings, his moral, which is the most important educational family, but now we ignore these.

Today, education does come across a lot of problems. And I think that the reason for the difficulties in China's education, because now at least four challenges faced, for every family, every school is facing these challenges.

First, the information age has shaken the authority of adults, this is the first challenge.

generated by today's parents, teachers harder and harder, and why? Has never been a time like this, children know many things, but adults do not know. Information age has shaken the authority of adults, this is what has never happened before, but now such things often happen. For example, more than 70% of the students think they know more than their parents network. Children have a mother looking very much like to see pot. Wolf. She did not think his son wanted to pan, and she suspected his son violent. Two criticisms of CCTV called Children unite against China Central Television, many adults did not expect.

I in 2000, my site, opened in 2005 on my blog a few months ago and opened my Sina microblogging. I have a lot of friends in primary school, secondary school students have a say, Sun teacher, tell you the truth, and now the parents are rookie. I said what kind of bird you are, we are veterans. I understand that today's era is the era of rookie veterans education. Some parents said the child, the child is now learning ridicule, popular ridicule,

we parents fear their children in particular nails, will become what you say. So what kind of kids are prone to addiction? No computer at home is easy addiction. Why? No computer at home. Where's the addiction? Now the children will talk with the network, even the networks do not understand your child, but also right? He has sought the upper house did not, go to Internet cafes, to the students home, and someone is not home grown, went to someone on. Adults have lost control, of course, could not be easier to control addiction, which is a phenomenon.

There is also a phenomenon, not the parents of children online is easy addiction. Parents can not teach children not to. Or determined not to allow on, or do not know how to control. Parents are will be online, parents are old bird and will appropriately control the child, when on the Internet. This time, so that parents do not learn computer does not work, do not buy the computer does not work.

what kind of family is also easy to network addiction? Who put the computer into the children's room, who's kids are prone to addiction. So the discovery of a common worldwide, prevention of children is an important method of addiction is the computer in a public place, for example, in the living room, or on the parent's room, so that the child's addiction to small. You put the computer in the living room, the children want to go online, want to play the game can be, but sitting there playing, always feel behind a pair of eyes looking at himself, he would look at convergence, the control bit, which is effective supervision .

at such a time, parents will find that no parent of an era like today need to learn, children need to grow together. This is what I said this, this is the information age has shaken the authority of their parents. This is the first challenge, we must see that this is our past generations have not encountered problems. Because in times past, parents are air, proud to say: not. The information age has shaken the authority of adults, we must be aware of this change, the complexity of today's children far more than the past.

second challenge, child era challenges to education. We adults have a lot of people home, brothers and sisters, what good things you naturally think: there is no brother and sister there, a strong sense of sharing, it is very natural. But now home to a child, something no points, good for him, are particularly vulnerable to the formation of self-centered. There is also a social psychologist that the child like a patient, not a real patient; and parents, as doctors, brothers and sisters as nurses. In fact, not only that child, any child is like a patient, the patient should be together with the nurses. Children understand the reasons many of which are from brothers and sisters can get, but now they are not given the conditions of these reasons. Quite busy doctors, patients find a surgeon to old, so the children will be talking to himself. Why do kids like Jay? Jay talking to himself, that he would say that adults do not know, but the children would like to hear is the truth. The third issue

have to pay attention, today's kids face early sexual development, and education still lag problem. The survey found 10 years ago, the modern girl the time of the month on average 12.54 years old, boys nocturnal emission phenomena of the time average 13.85 years old, and now after 10 years, estimates and ahead of schedule. Basically, children who started primary school and on the development of most of the time. You think about it, we are not prepared to do sex education, we will not be sex education? Now what exactly is a phenomenon? A very famous in Beijing, who started classes inside the school events, you listen, do not worry worry about? First day of class, not very far from our place here, great schools. Class the teacher said, students, and the recent emergence of class we fight events, is not allowed,Discount UGG boots, a class is a family, big brother to take care of little brother, the teacher did not expect that, under H Hall laughing, smiling boys and girls also laugh. Teacher Mongolia, and big brother to take care of little brother, what is wrong? Teachers do not know, students have another understanding of the little brother; teacher said do not laugh, be quiet, let the students feel impulsive recently, job seriously and I tell you, so we have to be a school student, work to seriously do it. Boy, that students laugh even more. When a teacher can not read so many years, serious problems homework Well, the students were How do you say, you say he is over there turn. So this problem is very complex.

In such a case, we now need to change sex education. You think, five or six grades of primary school students, who started the stage, is very curious, our families, our schools do a good job of this prepared? Haidian District, Beijing, Taiwan's leading city, even in the Haidian District, high knowledge, high level of education where the most intensive, sex education was not so advanced. China is not a local education advanced, the things you dare not challenge. Beijing there had been a focus of high school students to one of two high-born children, and now I see how old the children are the better. This is a very acute problem, every family, every school must have to deal with this problem.

Recently, a topic for many families worry about, that is, the phenomenon of students Shehuang mobile Internet. 2009 China Central Television asked me to focus on four talk shows to do, there are two issues about mobile Internet Jurisprudence. As parents, home computer, but also control the child, not on pornographic websites, do not download pornographic pictures. But the child took the phone away, how do you tube, can follow it? Beijing a key high school, one high and one girl said, our class of 47 students, all the Internet to see the yellow information. Sometimes, some guy sent me an obscene picture, or send me the video, looked particularly sick, but how can I do? Only made him a more disgusting, it was that I have a level, I am not afraid. I have heard that nausea, nightmares, you can not worry about it? Under such circumstances, there is no sex education in how the line yet. So I give you one of the most simple suggestion, it should be quite natural to talk with the child issues. If you can not really talk about, I also give you a suggestion, if you have an adolescent children at home to at least one book on sex education at home. One two such books at home, is the most simple and effective method, not allowed to listen, not allowed to ask, not allowed to see, is impossible.

fourth question, the exam-oriented education has brought great pressure. The elementary school children, which the junior high school, the high school. How can a good school for their child? Parents like the cat on hot bricks and anxiety. School Choice in Beijing staged in mid-battle, and now a lot of trouble, because the small rise is the beginning of compulsory education law, exemption nearest school, but less good schools, and fierce competition, how do? Did not allow examination, so they give birth to a variety of strokes, a few years ago to see in Beijing Foreign Language score, resulting in tens of thousands of foreign language students to participate in public examinations, it would have with the students does not matter. Junior level, senior secondary and tertiary levels, undergraduate four, Beijing reached 50,000 primary school students to apply for foreign language, then a look too outrageous to cancel. May have to find a substitute to the Mathematical Olympiad.

day I met an editor reprinted, he said, Sun teacher, see in your mind Mathematical Olympiad. What is Mathematical Olympiad? For most children, learning the process is repeated Mathematical Olympiad proved to be a fool process. Yang, dean of 21st Century Education is my friend, he said, defeat the evil Mathematical Olympiad. In fact only 5% of the mathematical genius to play this game enthusiasts, Mathematical Olympiad is absolutely not suitable for all children to learn. Not good at math like me, who I must learn not to kill, but now has become a selection tool for Mathematical Olympiad, it is bad.

is now very terrible tendency of early childhood primary school there, kindergarten classes, assignments, and I say two words you hear This is the nursery should learn the word? Lotus root, lotus root, soy sauce, bench stool, dancing the dance, students are not necessarily written out of early childhood education - early childhood education into the early destruction.

education today is facing four challenges, so sometimes you do not over blame, the child is not good education, and indeed the background as we face more complex. But we do not say no way, say education is not good this day and age is not entirely right. Because many children grow up is also very good, so the importance of family education in particular, the reform of school education is very necessary, this is what I talk about the background. Today I am going to talk about the

child personality development on issues ranging from gender education about.

I recently just such a book out Me and my two children, Dr. of Psychology study for a year and a half to write the book, and aroused widespread concern. Today I participated in the activities of Sina, sat next to a gentleman, living in the United States for 16 years, and now very famous in China, the company opened. He saw me and said, finally had to I said why? He said that China has lost a generation of men. So I said how do you say? You see, he said, when a girl boy child family to support, how could a man? No temper, no exercise, no exercise, no beat, how can that be? Graduate Employment Survey advice that I found today's kids, the good girl too many good little boys, so I'm feeling ah.

I tell you a phenomenon, why do we make individualized over the past several thousand years, and now we have to raise the banner of gender education, which is a major principle of gender education. According to China Central Television reported, particularly in August each year to the end of August, many pregnant women are ahead of caesarean section, some children due date is late September, also Caesarean section, Caesarean section is also in October. Why? Children in time for the September 1 before the birth, a good school, morning school, otherwise, almost a year later, that does not fall behind and be proud, so caesarean section, I listened to terrible.

Why scary?

because 5-year-old boy's brain language areas can only reach the development level of 3-year-old girl and a half levels. Boy's finger motor and literacy development of late than girls, in addition to absolutely no more than 3% of the very small number of gifted children, the vast majority of the boys, as early as 6-year-old school choice is a disaster. This is the trouble started, the day does not put people to pull light of it, do it Well. Can not keep up, do not understand, sure to make mistakes, sure to make trouble, it must be a problem child.

everyone to see primary and secondary schools all the problems of children, boys mostly poor students, class leader, the team of cadres, learning good, are well-behaved girl, mainly because much earlier development of girls than boys .

I am also Chinese Writers Association, vice president of science, our president is Academician Liu Jiaqi, he said the girl developed a short cycle, long the boy, the girl's development of a cycle is 7 years, the boy is 8 years of a cycle . Development of the two girls cycle is 14 years old, the boy developed two cycles is 16 years old, the difference is significant. Beijing Evening News said a message board, online survey found that 75% of Internet users in favor of the school as early as 6 years old, if this survey is true, then the results are very scary. European and American countries, including Australia, popular boy the best gift is to make his year at school, at least not earlier than 6 years old. As early as 6 years old, the first does not meet the requirements of state law, the second too early. In fact, boys and girls of the physiological differences are not a big problem, which is natural. Serious problem is that our teachers and parents are ignoring the difference. We feel that both men and women, girls can do, boys can do. Sina parents who asked me to do to do the show, I felt scared, or at least nearly half of the mothers felt their child is gifted children, although it is not extraordinary, after training also extraordinary. However, no matter how hard they try again, the distribution of extraordinary human intelligence will not exceed 3%, which is the iron law of human beings there is no changed. Have felt like this, naturally can not understand why to lag behind, intolerance behind, the boy not to distress the Well, the trouble here.

key is to save save the boy's education, change education.

four boys crisis, the first is the academic crisis; second physical crisis; the third is the psychological crisis; the fourth is a social crisis.

we look at the school crisis, this is very obvious - the primary school,UGG boots cheap, boys lag behind girls, such as the beginning of the 2008 Beijing Recommending Excellent League Members from primary school, and what results? Many schools have reached the male to female ratio of 1:2, girls are boys more than twice, this is certainly such an outcome.

look at secondary schools, primary schools are not that boy, high school came up, and you look up it? Did not come up.

the best students in academic achievement, or girls more than boys because girls dominant subjects 6, male subjects only three advantages. Now girls, the rise of a comprehensive, boys comprehensive defeat. You look at the college entrance exam, and normally the top students does not count, because the college entrance exam and the second very little difference, this does not describe the problem. But you can also see the time in 2000, boys accounted for 66.2% of the college entrance exam, and now is down to 39.7%, all the way down. Girls all the way up from 13.8% to 60.3%, up to 64.6%. Now we do not call scholar Lang, and called champion flowers.

look at the university, if the high school boys caught up with the university should be a boy's world of the bar. National College Scholarship, 5 million people each year from 2006-2008, winning the national award-winning all of the provinces is essentially the number of girls are boys more than twice, including Beijing, we have calculated that the statistics before. Red is the number of girls, blue is the number of boys. You look at the girls to 70.2%, and 29.8% are men, on this difference, 60.9% and 31% is almost twice about. Behind the boys school, so a negative attitude, the failure of personality, as school failure, lead to unstable income, marriage is not ideal, and finally the emergence of various problems.

Beijing now there is a word, so that the leaders are very nervous, called ants, this phenomenon is of great concern. University graduates struggle like ants, 2 thousand dollars per month income for the fight. Beijing has 20 million ants, no doubt, the absolute majority of them boys. This phenomenon is not unique to China, but many countries in the world. United Kingdom, Australia, the United States a comprehensive defeat there boys and girls overall rise. In the U.S., girls are more willing than boys to college, more likely to read in school. I recruit graduate students, to all the girls, I am a geologist, to examine the future to go to the field, the girl right? Look

physical crisis, today's children how can movement, got the time to exercise? Deterioration in health, obesity rate rose 0.19% to 11.39%, straight up. Xinhua News Agency in 1993, a report is written after the Sino-Japanese Youth Summer Camp contest, found that Chinese children are fat and weak, affecting national competitiveness is a serious problem.

psychological crisis, obsessed with the network issues, map the blue is a boy, here boy in the majority. Also, for example, there ADHD, learning disabilities, autism, mental retardation is far more than girls, boys.

this picture was Phelps at the Beijing Olympics swimming gold medals won 8 gold, he was a boy is ADHD, autism, why did he swim? Definitely not for the gold medal, is to rule ADHD. His mother is a primary school teacher, had the child's treatment for ADHD medication, his mother felt bad medicine, stop the medicine. Phelps 365 days, 360 days swimming, swim just like Superman, we love it. But his mental deficiencies, and it has not fully resolved. Won the gold medal, the U.S. president on stage to give him cheer, cheer him Bill Gates, he saw did not look like a child, to find that mother. Now he is still psychologically immature side, including some time before his drug use, and then apologized to the Chinese audience. I understand he made such a mistake with the sick, but his mother has been their best efforts, can not say that his mother is not due diligence.

last look at the social crisis, the boys more likely involved in violence and crime. Reading in the public schools, juvenile correctional facilities, the girls far more than the number of boys. I went to juvenile correctional facilities in Beijing have been to many times, I remember many years ago, the first time to this movie, I entered their room, all the boys have jumped out of bed, reports the leadership of the Government, Hello Hello, running like an avalanche, rows and rows, and energetic, physically strong, where the vast majority are boys, looked after really shocked.

we have to analyze why the larger crisis of the boy? . First, from the physical cause, and boys have become the boy that there are three particularly important characteristics of the factors. The first is his hormone testosterone secretion, the secretion of adolescent boys than girls 15 times more. Hormone secretion of testosterone prevented the two hemispheres of the brain linked, but the main language of the human brain's left hemisphere function, why do girls high capacity, because the two cerebral hemispheres adolescent girls can be balanced and smooth links. So poor adolescent boy language. Adolescent boys love adventure, love competition,cheap UGG boots, love challenges, love quarrels, and this is the hormone testosterone in his work.

Second, serotonin, what is serotonin? It can make emotional stability, to help control impulsive physiological factors, such a good thing, it is the girls are far more than boys. Boy, impulsive, poor control, which is his characteristic. Look inside classes, the students were a dangerous thing to happen, the vast majority of the report of the adults are girls, the girl is easy to be an informer, the girl more rational, this is too obvious, this not work, up through the teacher, the girl Comparison good control, regardless of whether the boy is. This creates the boys and girls have their own advantages, and what advantage? The boy's visual spatial ability, mathematical ability is very strong, girl language ability, expressive and emotionally sensitive than boys. So the formation of the boys and girls learn in different ways, very clear. Internet Gansha boy, no doubt playing the game, the girls online Gansha, places to chat based.

I went to Zhongguancun three small, and asked what lesson the students like, boys like sports, girls like music. Girls really like learning the language, communication, chat, read. Boys like sports, practical operation, the use of computers in experience. A lot of trouble, now that the curriculum from kindergarten to primary school are based on verbal communication, accounting for the majority. Girls can listen to, can understand, the boy listened for a moment to listen to, and to sit still. This is his characteristic, not a weakness. But our problem is, we put this as a problem, you do not take lectures, is poor health.

we look at the photos, overweight children, at home simply can not stand, the typical image of the boy. Pen, finger nerve is not developed, do not understand, only boil. Children do not exercise more, learn the worse. A mother is very smart, led school children, to not go home to play more than an hour before, and then go home, the mother clever, very clever. Play more than an hour after a child has already released a lot of energy to meet the needs of the movement, and then go home or do other homework to be able to concentrate on the. Now many of our families, especially terrible, there is no time for exercise during the day, home is up homework, finish the job, but also add jobs, the children work all night in the mill, there is no time to play, so that children are particularly vulnerable to the trouble. The boy at least 4 times a day of extra-curricular sports, and now not even one is not guaranteed. We are now primary and secondary schools, including kindergartens pursuit of campus culture is static as the core, quiet, softly, walking, not running, do not jump, it can do it? So we completely against the nature of children, so children go to a problem.

another father of the boy crisis is a crisis, and why?

missing parent education is a major cause of the boy crisis. The boy because his father was the first male role models, is irreplaceable role model, my father is very important. But now the result? You see, I presided over four consecutive years of high school students in Japan and South Korea U.S. Comparative Study of the four countries, when asked about the troubles encountered with the Who, when, four countries, are taking the same-sex companions first. Japan, South Korea, the U.S. high school students to the mother on the second, China's high school students, the female students and female students are placed into second place, the mother placed third. Japan, South Korea, American students placed fifth in the father but the father of China's top five make the list, users also came in after. In China, the father's trustworthiness, influence than friends: friends 19.4%, father 15.8%, much worse. Lack of parent education can not do. This is a very worthy attention.

Some say lack of parent education so serious? We all know that as a very gentle animal, generally do not attack others, we look at this picture, who recently discovered South African National Parks South Africa has become very irritable baby elephant attack is very strong, catch up with the white rhino to knocked down with their feet trampled to death, not before this phenomenon. They look for experts to study up and found that due to fast propagation of the African elephant to kill a number of male elephants, and the public as a small elephant care and the role of discipline, after the big kill, it becomes smaller cranky, this is the laws of nature.

look at this, the Beijing Haidian District Lanji Su cafes, June 16, 2002 fire, two fires were not 15 years old. How's going on? The two of them go to Internet cafes to play, money is not enough, Internet cafes attendant joke to them, they are particularly angry, put his money left in a hash, buy gasoline, and burned at night cafes, the results at night or do not know why the wind direction , the fire was inside a person get out, which burned to death 25 young men, mostly college students, very sorry, and later after the case broke, the Public Security Bureau for interrogation, and you doing? Children is to say we burn them. And South Africa this is the same as the truth, these two children are their parents divorced, father care, mother care, along with grandparents, older grandparents too busy, the school did not know where they are.

some U.S. data is very impressive, 70% of the juvenile offenders out in single-parent families, 60% of the rapists, 72% of juvenile homicide offenders, 70% of the long-serving offenders come from fatherless households, 90% runaway children are from fatherless families. Help control the emotional father plays a key role, we have the feeling of a home dad at home, be careful, the performance of today can get a good performance. Dad does not Yanzi Wei, father represents a rule, dignified. But Dad is not scary for children, how to explain the father's role? You think about 4,5 months in infants when the father and mother had felt different. How the mother holding a baby in? Hold very tight, the children feel very warm, very safe. Dad holding the baby would not so hold, hold my father too are relatively loose, but the dynamic, or put on the shoulders, or lifted up. Kids to have that feeling, the father of a hold on the excitement, go out into the jump up, knowing the time to play, strong and the people, you can jump to jump to freedom. The street to see any country are the same, mother with children, activities, small radius, the intensity of activities is also very small, play games, tell stories,UGGs, play land sitting there, my father took the children to sprinkle The distant, you run, Dad to chase, catch up soon. Dad brought the children courageous, independent, this gives us what inspired it? Human development has two directions, first the development of intimacy, the function of a natural mother, the mother breast-feeding, holding, feeding time and his role as the very, very warm. Some children are not at home when her mother are anxious not, then if the mother holding the clothes of the pillow will ease a lot of my mother. Dad's role? This is a person from another direction - the independence, the father of a natural function of this area. The way my father brought from raising independent, courageous, have a responsibility. So father and mother's education is indispensable. lack of parent education

the phenomenon is now so pronounced. I finished a school class in Beijing, playing taxi drivers in Beijing special love to chat, ask me what, I said I was engaged in the education of children, the driver said lords also control children's education. I said, whatever you kids education? He said I do not care, I will control money, education is the damn thing. Beijing, the brother, is missing the parent to teach the spokesperson. Now the network has a very funny piece, a man wrote a song called the mother of the songs, popular network, 3 minutes of 800 words said her mother, told the kids, told that, particularly if her mother, in particular, love concerned about the children. After the song was popular, my father has been suggested, and said her mother how to write light, do not write my father? That the author is a woman, also a mother, so it is understandable, quickly wrote a song my father, for a word - Yes, ask your mother. What kids, good, ask your mother. He did not know, no matter. The question on the parent to teach the world to do the best to the number of Sweden, Sweden enacted a law in 1995 called the The child before the age of 12, the father must be paid vacation each year, accompanied by children, we Chinese should learn from the law, not the capital city of Beijing City, Well, I hope Beijing can learn a great need for this matter.

lectures at the beginning I just talked about the Daxing Daughter to the case, I'd say this thing around. How to develop children's emotional intimacy?

Korea's former Minister of Education that, for the children before the age of 10, moral education is vital, they called moral intelligence, he said, very specific, very useful.

He said children before the age of 2, to give children unconditional love, to cry on hold, to feed the hungry, carefree, smiling, very comfortable, very happy, to make safety before age 2 sense of well-being established, which is the basis for a happy life, is very important, very important.

However, 2 years -5 years old, this time in particular the children dare to say no, why? Because children under 2 years -5 years of age is when the fastest growing voice capabilities, this time to give him that this can not be done, that can not do any good, bad, need to establish a rule that will benefit children for life. Children to specify the rules, know the rules, it is very critical.

5 years old -10 years old moral education to the children, such as teaching children friendship and honesty. After 10 years of age

education so important principles? Is respect. Because the age of 10 -20 years of adolescence, puberty, they must respect the child. Why today's children is difficult to control, is small, there is no sound foundation. For example, some parents are engaged in Henlang Bei, one to the mall to buy things, the children that have, it should not give to roll, to get the helpless parents. If you lose you buy the next child to know, what can I use to do your living.

how to do?